Archive for November, 2009

Not With a Bang, But a Stripey Sock

Monday, November 30th, 2009

Some monkeys are never satisfied…

monkey cheetos

I am two hours into an eternal conference call about sales cycles (or is it core messaging? I am no surer now than when we began), spending the final day of nablopomo with voices in my ear nattering on about core functionalities, key takeaways, and various dependencies and deliverables.*

If I felt a little more studly, I’d sum up this month with monkeys and minstrels. But all I have for you today is the lessons learned from Birthday 09. My natal takeaway, if you will.

Now, I don’t have to tell you that when you’re facing an upcoming event-with-presents, you should make no sudden moves that could dampen the celebration (or jeopardize the gift stream). So, no break-ups, no family quarrels, no laying it on the line with friends. I mean, DUH, this is obvious to even the tiniest child.

But here’s another trick I’ve now learned the hard way. Come birthday time, you should probably avoid blogging about how you want nothing and need nothing, and how your loved ones probably need nothing, as well.**

Such dangerous blather*** has consequences, which, in my case, included a total gift haul of three pairs of stripey socks.

(Well, two stripeys and one argyle.)****

*All I know is, I’m better at self-critical than mission-critical.

**As it turns out, they want many somethings.

***Meant only in a love-filled spirit-over-stuff sort of way, of course. Also, that post was about christmas, people. GAH. This would never have happened if I’d been a spring or summer baby, but I had to go and get born in the rump of the year, me and dumb old jesus.

****Said socks rock, so thank you, sister. And thanks to Lorin, who gave me raw fish, a kind ear, and a whole new family to celebrate with on the actual day.

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Canine Topography

Sunday, November 29th, 2009

canine topography

During my family’s Thanksgiving in Kansas City, we fit six large adults and eight mostly small mutts on one super-sized sectional couch for a trypto-coma viewing of Wedding Crashers.

sleepy archie

The dogs were little aces on the trip; the pee-to-joy ration was well worth it. And as you see, they’re part of my lap’s landscape.

mount archie

So if I have to say what I’m thankful for, it’s them, and everyone else on that ship of a sectional.

My Main Ingredient

Saturday, November 28th, 2009

butterfat

That’s pretty much all there is in me after two thanksgivings, except for some leftover thoughts that are as dry and done as the leaves I still need to rake. Too much driving and dining over the past few days, and not enough resting. More tomorrow, after a bath and a sleep.

And thank the holy taco for Sunday, our almighty day of loaf.

Can I get a witness?

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Monkey in the Middle

Friday, November 27th, 2009

Little Lemmy rides on daddy, double-fisting a biscuit and lollipop:

monkey in the middle

One bite of dinner, a little lick of dessert. Sounds like the day most Americans have planned, between the football and the doorbusters.

The mutts and I are headed down to Kansas City to join the larger family for another thanksgiving/birthday celebration (because THE FUN, SHE JUST WON’T QUIT). The three local dogs are already grappling with my parent’s three chihuahuas. Once Stella and Archie hit town, we’ll witness a perfect storm of inappropriate pissing.

“We have gallons of enzymatic pee spray,” my brave sister said. “And a carpet steamer. So come on down!” We should all be so warmly welcomed. Here’s hoping Black Friday is good to you and yours, with fetching leftovers and plenty of pee spray.

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Happy Thanksbirthday

Thursday, November 26th, 2009

time flies

Hope you’re all enjoying today’s feast of thanks. Try not to fight too much with your family—and save room for pie.

As for me, I’m curled on a pile of dirty clothes, clutching a Big Gulp of gin and tonic in one hand and a picture of Helen Mirren in the other.

centaur skeleton

time flies, centaur skeleton

I’ve Run Off to Join a Baboon Outlaw Gang

Wednesday, November 25th, 2009

Move over, Faustino. Fred’s a fruit-eating felon from Cape Town and when he’s not breaking into cars, he’s mugging tourists, so watch your wallets:

fred the felonious baboon

Maybe I’m just one of those fool girls who recasts every d-bag sneak-thief she sees into Robin Hood, but those eyes say poet to me. He’s misunderstood, y’all. A noble outlaw. He doesn’t mean to hurt you, baby, it’s just all the hurt that’s been put on him.

Knowing me, I’d take him home and redecorate the guestroom, and then he’d make off with my shiny things and the last of the honeycrisps. I suspect Archie would follow him; he craves a strong male role model and Fred looks like El Alpha to me.

Image via, AP photo by Schalk van Zuydam/November 24, 2009

Speaking of Presents…

Tuesday, November 24th, 2009

I’ve been thinking a lot about that bootheel of an upcoming holiday lately, and I think I found the perfect way to play it in this, the year of our disappearing wallets:

shitmydadsays

So we can jolly our giving bones with presents for the neph, but not buy anything new for the old folks. And by this point, we’re all old folks. Old folks with way too much crap.

Christmas used to be a season of plenty, which was fun and a little too filling, in the same way that too many christmas cookies can give you the kitchen-dizzies. Last year we set a $10 limit, which was an interesting challenge, but also lead to a low gift-to-delight ratio. Basically, I got more stuff that I wanted less, which just feels too wasteful and irritating to repeat. (But then, I’ve been in a place of clarifying crankiness lately, which you’ve been kind enough to overlook. Thank you for your patience.)

Another tradition that’s fallen by the wayside (due more to time than money), is the name exchange, where we each picked a family member out of a hat and made that person something with our own two hands, instead of buying them something with our own grubby dollars. This was always my favorite way to celebrate, especially since we’re a family of makers. I suppose we could still do a handmade exchange this year, although it’s nearly December, which doesn’t leave a lot of time for shame-your-siblings creativity.

What about you and your family? Is this a budget christmas? A giving year? Or are you making everybody some damn peanut brittle and calling it good?

Image via the @shitmydadsays twitter stream. I read some of these aloud to The Subtle Mother the other day, and they made her snort-laugh repeatedly.

My Little Puppy

Monday, November 23rd, 2009

When I said I didn’t want anything for my birthday?

horse-dog

I was lying.

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Shedding the Fetters

Monday, November 23rd, 2009

blow

It’s Monday and the year is dying. The sky is heavy silver-grey right now, and it feels ominous, not luminous.

My family has vague plans for thanksgiving, but there are so many germs and contingencies at play, I’m glad to have a tower of books and nine disks of television from the library, in case the dogs and I need to hole up on our lonesome (including the giant new Ayn Rand bio, which promises hours of seethe and glare; that alone could kill a holiday weekend deader than an industrialist’s heart).

My birthday is Thursday, and I’m sure you all have the day off, but not in my honor (although please enjoy a bite of stuffing and a good swig of whatever you’re drinking for me). Birthday’s have their own weight these ever-quicker days. I have no taste for the cake, the candles, the celebration. I need no new things, especially now, when all I want is to donate and downsize. I have planned a night of sushi with an old friend in Omaha this week, and I mean to get fierce and delirious on sake and raw protein. That will be enough this year.

What I really want is someone to watch my house while the dogs and I take off for a few months. We’d get a sublet in San Francisco, a short-term rental in Austin, any place, anywhere but here, where the sky is pewter, and the days are short, and the end of this year can’t come soon enough.

Anyone need a room or have one to lend?

Image via several places, none of which I can locate just now. He’s blowing in a gust of wind, but doesn’t it look like he might just fly?

My Once & Future Life

Sunday, November 22nd, 2009

Meet Faustino, a rescued howler monkey who lives at an animal sanctuary in Bolivia:

faustino

Was he found injured in the jungle and nursed back to health? Freed from life on the grift with some carnie organ-grinder? No, Faustino was rescued from being a pet, in a home where he regularly drank alcohol and watched TV.

I’m sure he’s in a better, healthier place now, but I recognize that look in his eyes. “Fuck fruit,” it says. “Papa needs a cocktail, and I’m missing my damn stories.”

I’m like to sponsor the occasional weekend getaway for Faustino. We’ll gather in my room at some nearby resort for margaritas and must-see TeeVee. Or jugged wine and telenovelas, if that’s what he prefers.

Via, picture by NOAH FRIEDMAN-RUDOVSKY / BARCROFT MEDIA



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